Thursday, January 7, 2016

Copied ... But Appreciated


Thursday, December 24, 2015

Merry Christmas

To all who read this blog. I hope you have a most wonderful Christmas and a great coming year.

To those who have never read this blog, I wish you a Merry Christmas.

Sunday, December 13, 2015

Connecticut has become a zombie state

The governor is cheering the fact that the legislature has passed a bill that orders state agencies not to approve or grant any permit to individuals who have been put on the Federal no fly list. This action was taken after the President mentioned using executive action to achieve the same goal at Federal level.

That's just wrong ... and is possibly illegal.

The rights of the people, as stated in the Constitution and law can only be modified by action of the legislature. The no fly list is an administrative action by a federal agency and is kept secret by that same agency. In fact, the process used to decide who will be enshrined on the list is classified and not available to the public.

Now we have a state saying that a secret administrative decision by a Star Chamber can be used to deny an individual rights that are permissible by law. The Second Amendment protagonists are up in arms (not sure if that was an intentional pun) but everyone needs to be aware that the concept behind these actions can and will be abrogated by fiat.

If you are on a "List" you can be denied a professional license, a business license, a technical license and even a drivers license if a state employee decides that you are an "enemy of the state". That is not what the Constitution says and we need to be concerned about the direction society is being driven by those who believe they know better than you or me.  

Sunday, December 6, 2015

Question of the day

Watching the media make up and spin the story of the San Bernardino terrorist incident there is not a lot I can say in response. The picture says what I'm thinking

Friday, November 27, 2015

9 Things to keep in mind

This has been around for years, but it is always topical

#9   Death is the number 1 killer in the world.
#8   Life is sexually transmitted.
#7   Good health is merely the slowest possible rate at which one can die.
#6   Men have two motivations: hunger and hanky panky, and they can't tell them apart.  If you see a gleam in his eyes, make him a sandwich.
#5   Give a person a fish and you feed them for a day.  Teach a person to use the Internet and they won't bother you for weeks, months, maybe years.
#4   Health nuts are going to feel stupid someday, lying in the hospital, dying of nothing.
#3   All of us could take a lesson from the weather.  It pays no attention to criticism.
#2   In the 60's, people took acid to make the world weird.  Now the world is weird, and people take Prozac to make it normal.
#1   Life is like a jar of jalapeno peppers.  What you do today may be a burning issue tomorrow.

Friday, November 13, 2015

For Adults Only

This past week has taught me that "higher education" does not necessarily result in "higher intelligence". My mind has a difficult time grasping the concept that people need Trigger Warnings that a discussion or an article might, just might offend the listener/reader. Or that people require a Safe Space where they don't have to have reality intrude on their concept of self.

If you believe in closing your mind to other ideas and if you feel threatened by other peoples thoughts I suggest you stop reading now:

If you need a Trigger Warning or a Safe Space, you are a child who should not be allowed out in public without a responsible adult to watch over you.

Because you are not an adult.

An adult accepts resonsibility for their own actions.

An adult isn't offended by someone who disagrees with them.

An adult knows how to have reasoned discourse without getting emotional.

An adult does not require others to support him/her.

An adult knows that words are just that, words.

An adult knows that their actions define who they are, not what others may think or feel about them.

A child, throws tantrums when they do not get their way.

A child wants others to do everything for them.

A child screams and yells at others when their own wishes and desires are not met.

A child cannot stand not  being the center of attention and being pampered.

A child is incapable of having reasoned discourse or a civil conversation.

So if you need a "Trigger Warning" or a "Safe Space" you are NOT an Adult.

You are a CHILD.

Maybe it's time you grow up like the rest of us.  and if someone who claims to be an adult tells you that you need those warnings and spaces?  They are simply children trying to masquerade as an adult, and trying to lead you into being just as self centered and spoiled as they are.

Wednesday, October 7, 2015

Taking Resposibility

 I work with a wide variety of personalities in my job as a mediator. Since I’m supposed to be non-judgmental while I guide the parties to a mutually agreeable solution to their problem I spend a lot of time listening to stories that support their position. Often, the stories are exactly that … a story. Designed to explain why things happened the way they did.

And all too often the story completely denies any responsibility for what happened.

Just recently I had a case where the defendant blamed the plaintiff for the injury the plaintiff had received because “they should have been walking on the other sidewalk across the street”  and “the medical treatment they got cost too much money and I don’t believe I need to pay that much” for the injury caused by their negligence. They were eager to admit that an injury had happened, but blind to their responsibility for causing the accident and the injury. It was all the other person’s fault for being present and therefore they were responsible for the accident.

Believing as they did, the defendant insisted that they didn’t need to discuss the situation and certainly didn’t owe any money to anyone. They also believed that the plaintiff owed them money for having the temerity to sue them for damages. Not all mediations are successful and this one went back to the court … where the judge ruled the defendant had totally responsibility and must pay for the damages. Something any reasonable observer could have predicted.

In my practice I’m seeing this attitude occurring all too often because my generation taught the younger generation that failure is society’s fault and that the individual is not responsible for anything other than self-satisfaction. And the younger generation continued and expanded that silliness by insisting that no one should suffer the stigma of failure.

I don’t have any solution, all I can do is hope that in the future (near future, I hope) the idea of resiliency and responsibility takes root and finds fertile ground.